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I want to tell a friend: what is a “respected”

I want to tell a friend: what is a “respected”
“Respect” interpretation for the term: worthy attention. Language was founded out of the Han Shu Xiao Wangzhi Biography: “look, the master to see respect, respect the ascended on, dinner, order and disorder, Chen Wang. “; Ouyang Xiu Song dynasty of the King’s nephew boping Hou epitaph:” respect for the teachers, they asked no slight middle-aged paunch. “For now, the” respect “for the two words are very simple, are commonly used, just a primary school can understand its meaning.
A friends (is said its for a friends, reasons has II: a, didn’t want to revealed the friends of identity, probably this friends and many years Qian fled to Taiwan of a big namesake; II is, once road out the friends of name, may will compromised its has lives of runs) is a shape is strong, temper slightly hot, several cup wine Xia belly also will without rhyme or reason beat you several fist of people.
Such people, on the face of it appears to be “fearless”, and get along well with his usual, practically speaking, Wen’s character. Rugged, bold and has become his label. However, such a “fearless” has been steadfast in men is a Henpecked coward, which was regrettable, are perfect human beings cannot do occasionally runs a!
A friend’s wife, ugly, with her wife and mother is irrelevant. In short, if revolved 360 degrees, you don’t want to find a little bit of advantage on her body. Not only that, but she still has violent tendencies, how I can’t say to other people, but a friend is always kicking, implacable.
And a friend to confront her forces attack is always lost to resist, weekday mighty image disappeared, and “fearless” high momentum yet disappeared. Often heckled by afterwards, the answer was: “I’m not afraid of her, but respect for her. “This is its engaging, ridiculous. May be a friend of the dictionary, which is what he called “respect”. But it seems to us, is saying how the hype is also difficult to win.
The so-called “respect” should be mutual effects from both sides, rather than a unilateral act, we hear a “mutual respect” is the concept. Therefore I respect is that both sides must abide by the “agreement”, cool immediately collapsed, fallen Earth, reduced to a pile of loess, worthless talk respect is nothing more than empty ears.
To put it bluntly, you don’t respect me, I have no obligation to respect your need “respect” are tightly connected to the parties is, if a party collapsed and the other also landslides, after all, reduced to a heap of loose sand.
Road to marital relationships, is none other than the most critical mains, it is respected. Couples living under the scorn eyes, without respect for each other’s wishes, is useless. Not only that, if respect for one-sided maintenance on one side, then easily derived hierarchy disparity, and domestic violence has been produced, tragedies will continue to show in front of people, but by that time already regret.
I want to tell a friend, his patented “respect” not only undesirable, but digging fool cited, if unchecked, a tragedy last exemption, keen to rein in.

Learn to listen to others speak

Learn to listen to others speak

It’s all very simple:
Today for an interview, is tragic, but can not find the interview to interview, recorded an empty Office, which finally led to his wind fluttering their interview on the street myself, sadly. Why, the reason is simple, people calling to interview yesterday when details of the interview addresses, without serious note the address of told, even to the last charge on their own opinion has made a private address, the result is obvious. This is equivalent to telling a person deep in the desert water location, and you did not listen carefully to others, then he made the address to look for water, die yourself in the end.

“I was very angry, very serious consequences” were now looking for a job is difficult, really is not easy to get an interview, once again by their own waste. This keeps making excuses every day talking about what college students, what the financial crisis so hard to find, again and wasting a valuable opportunity over there, really very sad, very sad … …

If today you not to a job who of identity to interview, but to a manager of identity to family on a pen important of big business, you such find not to address, how can success work, then you lost of just once opportunities, you may lost of is a copies millions of even tens of millions of of orders, even last even you of Manager location also have stepped down, this not said impossible. All you will pay because you are not serious. …

Afraid of doing thing in life is to make yourself regret things because sorry feeling really very very uncomfortable … There is no regret medicine to buy, I do thing you have to bear the bitter, cannot be represented, cannot complain to anyone, that everything you own, you have to accept unconditionally, you have to swallow it unconditionally to the deep inside until you digest it so far. …

Tips learn to communicate with people

Tips learn to communicate with people

Just received my colleagues send SMS: frustrated, understanding of life; errors, add first wake up to life, unfortunately, on the maturity level of awareness in the world; tribulation, connotation of success through it again. So be sure to learn skills to interact with people, not hurt people, not to get hurt.
And correct understanding of people and human nature.
Understanding and humanity can be simply summarized as-“by the very nature of people to share their”, “people put identity” rather than use their vision to see others, not to impose their will on others. People first is interested in her, not interested in you! In other words-one attention is better than focusing on your 10,000 times. Recognizing that “the first thing people care about is their own, not you” this, is the key to life.

Second, how to talk with others
When you talk to people, please select the topic they are most interested in. The topic they are most interested in is what? Are their own! From your words out of the dictionary–“me, myself and I”. In other words, one of the most powerful words in the human language to replace “you”. If you are interested in talk is not important, important is whether your audience is interested in talking. When you talk with people, talking about each other, and guide each other to talk about themselves. So you can become one of the most popular conversation partner.

Three, how to subtly make the other person feel important
Humanity is one of the most common characteristics–to be recognized, and need to be understood. Would you like to do like a duck in a relationship? So, please try to make others aware of their importance. Remember, you make people feel important, and how you will be rewarded more.
1. listen to them
2. commend and compliment them
3. as often as possible to use their names and pictures
4. before answering them, please pause
5. the use of these words-“you” and “your”
6. affirm those people waiting to see you
7. Expresses concern that everyone in the Group

Four, how to subtly align themselves with other people
Never forget that any fool can object to being, but only wise men and great men will agree-especially when they make a mistake! “Endorses the art” can be summarized into the following 6 points:
1. learn to approval and recognition
2. When you agree with someone else, please speak up
3. When you don’t agree, don’t tell them, unless
4. When you make a mistake, to have the courage to admit that
5. avoid arguing with others
6. dealing with conflicts

Endorses the roots of art โ€“
1. people like people who agree with them.
2. people don’t like those who oppose them.
3. people do not like to be against it.

Five, how to listen to others
Listen to more, you will become more intelligent, would be more popular, you will become a better conversation partners. Of course, being a good listener, is not an easy task, I have 5 suggestions here for reference:
1. watch the speaker
2. close to the speaker and sense of hearing
3. ask questions
4. do not interrupt the speaker topics
5. using the speaker said-“you” and “your”

VI how to subtly influence others
People as you wish to do the first step is to find out the reason why they did (that is what they want). And people say what they want to hear, they will be moved. You simply explain to them, just do what you ask them to do things, they can get what they want. “To know what people think,” is to ask, observe, listen more, together with their tireless efforts.

Seven, how to subtly persuade others
When you say you serve our own things, people usually suspicious of you and what you have said, this is an expression of the instinct of a man. A better way is: do not directly, but refer to another person, to let others speak for you, even those who are not there. Therefore, in order to speak through the mouth of a third party.

Eight, how to make other people make decisions
1. Why do people agree with you. Tell people that you say they would benefit from, rather than your own benefit.
2. can only be used “to” to answer the question. However, you should note that to properly ask “Yes” questions. In other words, when you ask such questions, nod, and “you” to begin your question.
3. the people in the two “good” one. The trick is to let the two of them in your “to” select a.
4. looks forward to people to say “good”, and let them know that you expect them to make sure the answer

Nine, how skillfully the mobilization of other people’s feelings
1. remember that any initial moment often dictates the tone of the entire communication process.
2. then, using the second fundamental laws of human behavior–people were fascinated by other people’s reactions with a strong sense of group
Therefore, in the beginning, your moment of eye contact, before you speak, before you break the ice and show your warm smile. People don’t realize, how much to pay, how many returns. Don’t forget, from now on, so put on a smile, just like professional models, and said to myself–“smile! โ€

Ten, how to give a compliment
Generous, to praise others! To find some commendable things and persons, and commended them.
1. be sincere
2. Commends the Act itself, rather than commended
Praise must be specific-targeted. Happiness formula โ€“ tribute to three different people everyday habits. You will feel, after so doing, how you are happy! When you do bring happiness, joy, and gratitude to others, you will be happy.

XI how to subtly criticize others
1. criticism must be made at alone
2. criticism must be slightly before giving praise or compliment
3. when the criticism, not for people, criticizing a particular behavior, but don’t criticize someone
4. provide answers
5. Requests for cooperation, instead of the command
6. a mistake, a criticism
7. in a friendly manner over criticism

12, how to thank others
Only in your gratitude and appreciation for others is not enough, this you should be grateful, and the feelings of appreciation expressed to the people you are grateful for.
1. be sincere
2. clear, natural expression
3. watching you appreciate each other
4. thank each other’s names
5. try thanks

13, how to make a good impression
If you want beautiful, make them beautiful. If you want people to appreciate you, admire you, respect you, you have to let people feel that you are worthy to receive this honor. For you and proud of it (but not conceited! ) As your own, your career, and to your work environment and proud not to that situation and inadequate and inferior. You are–to respect themselves, to be proud of yourself.
1. express our sincere
2. be enthusiastic
3. do not have too much impatience
4. not by demeaning others to elevate oneself
5. do not hit anyone or anything

14. how to speak
1. understand what you are saying
2. say say, stop
3. talking, watching the audience
4. talk about audience interest topic
5. do not attempt to lecture